Sheila Lynch is a Master’s student in Steinhardt’s Counseling for Mental Health and Wellness Program. She also works at the Wasserman Center front desk where she’s probably helped you log in for an event or appointment. Here, she offers the second in a three-part series for managing stress. Check out yesterday’s Part One here. Be sure to scroll all the way through to check out the latest selections in the Wasserman Center Playlist.
Step 2: Evaluate. Once you’ve identified the stressors, think about each one and ask yourself, “How much control do I have over this?” How much control do you have over the various parts and effects of your stressors? Is there a problem that can be fixed with a little help, time, or focused attention? Is it an event or series of events (perhaps an interview or two) that have an end date in the near future? Is it a part of your life that’s here to stay for a while (chronic illness, caring for a loved one, paying loans)?
It’s not unusual for a stressor to feel more or less in your control depending upon the circumstances or timing of its arrival. However, sometimes a new perspective can make all of the difference. Perhaps you didn’t realize how much you can influence your stressors or how helpful it might be just to recognize the extent of your control. Regardless, in many cases, there is more than one way to take action (and thankfully, when it comes to interviewing, we can help).